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And then they’ll whip around and say, ‘Well you’re fat anyway.’ So you first appreciated me, and then the moment I denied me, you lashed out."Women can be tough, too.
As a straight-sized person, I sometimes get slut-shamed if I turn a guy down, but I don’t get body-shamed. Well, aside from my ex-boyfriend, who I met on Tinder and who wound up being pretty great."I feel like, in the time since I’ve been off Tinder, I’ve really gotten to a place where I’m more confident in myself, and that comes from the blog and these movements."How did you get to that place? I feel like this relationship that I was just in — he was the first boyfriend who never told me that I had to lose weight. When in reality, he just acted the way a good person should act."We prop up men who date differently-sized women as heroes, and they’ll pat themselves on the back. I follow Robbie and his wife Sarah, and I’ve loved them for a really long time. "I think for me, I’m hyper-aware of how language is used when it comes to talking about me and my body on dating sites, or when I’m at a bar, or wherever I meet another person. But the fetishization tends to come when people make assumptions about what plus-size women actually like. S., do not do, because I have a lot of food allergies."Aside from being plus, you also identify as queer.I was going on phone chat lines and stuff at 17-years-old, which is kind of the predecessor of online dating in a lot of ways.For a fat girl who was told her entire life that she was undesirable or unloveable, the idea of meeting someone anonymously and having them fall for my personality, and then having the reveal — that’s the fat girl dream. I was lying about being 18-years-old to use the service.And I didn’t realize at the time, but all the men [using this service] who worked had to pay. So I went to living in the suburbs with mostly immigrant families to dating white-collar businessmen at 17-years-old. Since I was fat, these other parts of my personality had to be extra.
And so many different parts of my life emerged from that one introduction to dating. So these guys wanted a young woman, of course, but I could talk like their colleagues.’ Which, whatever, is problematic in and of itself.